The GDP of Love

If Love was an economy, we would be in a full-scale depression.

A friend recently posted a statement that got me thinking about how America treats relationships and it occurred to me that we have a dilemma related to the behavioral economics notion of choice.

Because we are a capitalist nation, we view relationships in terms of ownership and that forms the basis for our problems. We qualify looks and quantify sex and reduce one another into product that can be bought, sold and marketed. But this economy is failing.

The basic relationship between men and women has changed in the last century and like it or not, it is not going backwards. We have decided that within our species, the males and female are of equal value, at least that is the prevailing view.

Unfortunately, most people do not believe this is true. We say it, but in practice, if not in belief, men are still more valuable than women and as that idea crumbles, the heavens fall.

The American relationship economy is faltering as we move through the transition from patriarchy to a societal system based on something other than gender.

Women who have decided to embrace the new equality and pursue an education and career before a family are finding that the years spent in that endeavor are in a sense wasted when it comes to finding a mate. While you are grinding, men are uninterested and even repelled by your assertiveness and when you stop and begin to look around, you find all the marriageable men are looking at women younger than you or have so much baggage, that the airline fees would bankrupt them. And if a woman curtails those years spent on an education and a career, then she has given up on herself and made the attainment of a man her life's occupation which eventually fosters unhappiness and resentment.

So how do we change this? Listen carefully for this is wisdom: Equality of the sexes is not women emulating men or vice versa. It is accepting an equal societal value for all things intrinsically male and female.

But men and women must let go of ideas and beliefs made from the previous, flawed society and that will be painful and repugnant for some and require that many of us let go of the selfish and shallow commodification of the opposite sex in the old economy. Only in this way, will we attain a true equality, topple the one-sided value system and revive the relationship economy.

How you ask?

Lets go back to our example. A woman deciding that her career has to take precedence over a family is bullshit and is the choice given by a once male-dominated society which has built in penalties for either choice and thereby mind-fucked women from the start by giving them no clear and fair alternative. A woman like this should seek instead a man who is not on the same educational or economic footing, but somewhere else. If you think of this as settling or marrying down, just know that: 1. Those are creations of the patriarchy you have escaped, and 2. You don't get it.

Women must also get over the notion that beauty and attractiveness are earned and have great value in a relationship commensurate with wealth, intellect and other earned commodities. Again, this was the assigned value of women from the old world and it is a fallacy that bore vanity and created women as a depreciating product. As a woman once said "pretty don't spend."

And for men, this will be disassociating ourselves from the idea that every man must rule a personal kingdom with a woman as his vassal. It means not associating shame or ignominy with being chosen by a more successful female and turning our backs on the violence and abuse associated with that mentality. And it means above all, revering children and the process by which they are made.

If this sounds crazy to you, then you are getting it, because as of right now, it is crazy. And I know some of you ladies will read this and see some wisdom in it, but you will not be able to stop the feeling that your man should at once be older, taller, wiser and richer but somehow nonetheless equal to you by some nature you cannot describe. That is just your ambition talking.

I know some men will read this and think it is an abomination and an affront to God Almighty to elevate women with men in a way that gives equal power to choose and dominate men. To you I say the God is the old one who was made by men to subjugate women, in an equal society, no one dominates, they balance, and that is just your fear talking.

All of this is wild speculation, of course. I have no idea where all of this is going but we should all be excited that we are moving, albeit slowly, to a new paradigm, a new economy of the heart.

I just hope there's full employment there.


copyright 2017

Republican Gangsters, Democrat Bitches

The GOP are gangsters.

And the Democrats are their bitches.

I know it sounds funny because all politicians are lying, corrupt pieces of shit. But I am not talking about morality. I'm talking about strength, aggressiveness and "Don't-Give-A-Fuckery."

And we know this from our gangsta education. Don Corleone beheads a horse to get what he wants, Michael whacks everybody while christening a baby. Joe Pesci kills Billy Bats for telling him to get his shine box.

In politics, it's the same: Mitch McConnell, steals a Supreme Court pick because he can. George W. Bush starts two wars because nobody had weapons of mass destruction, Donald Trump betrays his country and becomes President then commit extortion and treason in plain sight and is acquitted by his conspirators on national TV.

Correspondingly, the Democrats are a bunch of weak punkasses who will not own their corruption. Democrats get majorities and will not move to change economic disparity. Democrats fight amongst themselves and lose an election they should have won. And now they throw each other under the bus while the GOP laughs in their faces and ends the American Republic, replacing it with an supremacist autocracy.

I don't like either party because they are all corrupt, like our system. The difference is, GOP embraces this and the Democrats resist, opting instead to pose as moralists even as they are outed all over the place as immoral. Don't get me wrong, both parties want to screw you. The Democrats just want to use protection. The GOP wants to impregnate you, force you to have the baby and then incarcerate it for free labor.

And why? Why is this so? Well, it's not complicated. Conservative philosophy is about not giving a fuck about your fellow man because you have crafted a God that forgives you for it. Liberal philosophy is about pretending to care about your fellow man, appeasing the same God, but never really helping your fellow man and blaming it on the Republicans.

Real Gangstas don't care. Michael Corleone murdered Hyman Roth, even though he was already dying. Mitch McConnell passed a tax bill that will enslave your grandchildren and forever create a ruling class and then he had a Kentucky bourbon. Meanwhile, over on Bitch Island, the Democrats commit 600k to defeat their one of their own progressive candidates and allows a billionaire to buy his way into a debate.

The Democrats used to be gangsters. FDR was a serious OG. If anyone threatened the New Deal, he threatened them with the end of their careers. He threatened to pack the Supreme Court with new justices until they did his bidding and ratified the New Deal and they did it. JFK was a gangster. Missiles in my backyard? Fuck you, Russia. Shit, JFK was so G, in the end, they had to take him out gangster style. And yes, Bill Clinton was a gangster. Faced with impeachment for a blowjob, he outed every politician and his mistress on Capitol Hill. This is why there was such vehement opposition to Hillary. A female gangster scares the fuck out of everybody.

If the Democrats ever want their power to actually be used to help people, they will stop their charade, especially when it comes to black people, who they treat like an Irish consigliere, and embrace their inner gangster. America after all was founded on violence. I know taking the high ground feels like evolution from that, but in politics it is not. A good politician, if there is such a thing, will purge all of his immorality in the execution of the greater good. Don Corelone did bad things, but never to innocent people and he always did it for family.

Protect the American family, Democrats. Cut off Bill Barr's head and put it in McConnell's bed, slam Mike Pence in the trunk of a Cadillac, go to the bathroom in Congress, then come out blasting, leave the gun and take the political cannoli. Grow a spine and do it now.

Or go get your fuckin' shine box.

Copyright 2019

Harry, Meghan and Diana

I have seen many people ask why Prince Harry's engagement is a big deal. I think I know and no it's not about race.

Prince Harry had panic attacks and other mental issues for years after the death of his mother Princess Diana. Who can forget the picture of him being forced to walk behind her casket in front of millions, fists clenched, face red, trying to hold it together at 12 years old? I can't. And little Harry knew none of his status could ever bring back the woman he loved.

Now, I know some of you are thinking "He's a wealthy royal prince. He got money. I don't feel sorry for him. Well, I remind you:
1. He was 12.
2. No one ever gets over the loss of their mom, and
3. Fuck you.

Harry battled his issues for a time, acted out socially as we all know and at one point, wanted to leave the Royal Family. But as time went by, he got older, better and found some sense of balance in his life.

And that is Meghan Markle.

Every man's choice of a life mate comes back to the woman who carried him, connected him to life, his past and the Creator. Even if he doesn't know who she is, "mother" is the essence of his choice. Harry has found in Ms. Markle the same quiet grace, charm and love of humanity that Diana had. It has helped him further overcome his demons and emboldened him toward his own family.

This is why it's such a big deal to women. This is bigger than little girl fantasies, bigger than race, class and even love.

This is a spiritual equanimity.

KAEPTAIN AMERICA

We all know Colin Kaepernick is right. So, I will not debate any of you who say the NFL has a right to shun him. Of course they do, but that does not make them right.
Kaepernick is being punished for exercising a God-given right, a right that defines Americanism at its core but one that flies in the face of business and selective patriotism and outright hypocrisy.
The silent collusion against him is the same kind that black people face in business each day. Some of us ignore it and it drives others of us crazy because we are never sure just what is behind the rejection and we always suspect the worst.
Colin Kaepernick is a multiracial man who was orphaned and blessedly landed in the bosom of a God-fearing family who loved him and nurtured his athletic gifts.
And then one day, he realized that he could not separate part of himself from the indomitable soul of his people and that famous or not, rich or not, he could be murdered and the same society that gave him the money and fame would allow his death to go unpunished because of the color of his skin. He could not abide this and not only because he's black but because he was raised by a Christian family who taught him better, who told him that he was indeed his brother's keeper.
All these players telling him to let it go are just the kind of damaged meat the NFL loves, weak, pliable men who do not have a tenth of the principle and nobility in the heart of the man they criticize.
I know most people will not turn off the NFL this year, but I will. I know it won't do a damned thing but it will make me feel better. The NFL season is 16 games long and so each Sunday, I will watch one of these 16 films instead.
1. MALCOLM X
2. THE FIVE HEARTBEATS
3. FRIDAY
4. I AM NOT YOUR NEGRO
5. SOUL FOOD
6. BOYZ IN THE HOOD
7. DO THE RIGHT THING
8. FEAR OF A BLACK HAT
9. NEW JACK CITY
10. BLADE
11. LOVE JONES
12. BOOMERANG
13. MENACE TO SOCIETY
14. COMING TO AMERICA
15. COOLEY HIGH
16.TRADING PLACES
I know you're thinking "It's easy for a Detroit Lions fan to give up football." Well, if you think this is about football, then you haven't been paying attention.

VARIATIONS ON THE N-WORD

Bill Maher's reference to himself as a house nigger engendered yet another debate about the word that owns the mind and soul of millions black people in our nation.

It's just a word, people and I know it has greater implications, but I bet you never think about why it does and that's because you do not think. You react and your reaction has been decided for you long before you ever do it.

Before I go on, let me say that I could give a shit if Bill Maher or anyone else uses the word. It's a scam, you see, another brilliant method by which we remain mentally enslaved.
Here is how black and non-black people use the word to keep us weak and powerless. I'll use numbers because this is very simple logic that operates under our bullshit lofty ideals.
1. Black people (by and large) have nothing in terms of wealth and this in a capitalist nation that says wealth is everything.
2. We have no wealth because powerful men have used violence and laws to keep us that way, and we, for our part, have suffered from a stepchild relationship with white people, created by slavery, sexual and psychological subjugation. Oppressed and enslaved people throughout history have had the same problems, but we have had it in the modern age and in a nation which says there is no place for it, but then hypocritically works to create these problems.
3. We have been unable to overcome these disadvantages in part because cultural, social and political opposition has been used on us to keep us at the bottom of capitalism's pyramid, because that's the way capitalism works. Poor and disadvantaged people are defacto enslaved to keep wealthy people wealthy. And what better people to keep in virtual slavery, than people who were actual slaves. Half the work is already done. 
4. Liberals lie to us and work to keep us oppressed and conservatives tell us that we can do it on our own and then manipulate the system so that we cannot succeed. And when we overcome their evil efforts, they have literally murdered and burned our accomplishments to the ground.
5. And with these forces against us, our personal efforts are never enough to break the cycle of mental dependency that others break who have neither our internal history nor the external opposition. Miss me with that "immigrants do it" shit. For them, assimilation does not feel like defeat, it is in fact ascension.
6. At the apex of that cultural, social and political opposition referred to in number 3, is the word and meaning of nigger. 
7. Non whites use the word to denigrate, enrage and taunt blacks whenever they feel like it, distracting us from the economic tyranny that faces us and giving us an identifiable enemy to vent our frustrations against but offering no hope that we will ever defeat this enemy because it is not a person. It is a theory, the ghost of a lie, an evil demi-god which is given power only by those who believe in him. It's so bad, that we have given the word a "nom de peur," like Voldemort, a name we dare not say: the N-Word.
8. Black people transformed the word culturally, hoping to weaken it but we also gave it power by continuing to be angered by its use by white people, even going so far as to say that "we can use it, but you can't." Think of that, a word which is forbidden by race. It's downright Orwellian.
9. But just like liberals and conservatives conspire to keep us weak, they also conspire to keep the word nigger powerful in propaganda used against us. 
10. Liberals sympathize with us and are outraged by the word, call to ban it, and agree that only we can say it. When in reality, they benefit from our enslavement to the word and our enslavement in general. They are offended by the word nigger but not the invidious discrimination in business and the way capitalism continues to shut us out of having legacy wealth. Isn't it funny that a black person can get a credit card, a car loan or even a mortgage but struggle to get business loans because we lack "collateral" the same collateral others have attained by legacy which was purchased with blood and tyranny?
11. Conservatives agree that nigger is a "bad word" but use it in private and in secret emails. In public, they use other ways of conveying the word. Still, they believe in deifying the word nigger because they know they can go there anytime they want, use it or refer to it and get black people to go apeshit (pun intended).
12. And thus, because black people are frustrated by losing in the capitalism game, we claim property that has cultural worth but no economic value. And just like that, the word nigger owns you.
13. We claim ownership of the word because it makes us feel better and it gives us a fight that never ends and which makes us feel like we are always doing something, when in fact, all we are doing is playing into the hands of those who never want us to be free. 
This is how the word nigger owns you and why you should not care who says it and why you should give it no power in your life. So, black people let it go. Stop feeding a monster that was created to terrorize you forever. Non-white liberals, stop pretending you care about our feelings and know that the jig is up, we see you and your shit and it no longer works. We can be allies, but you no longer get to have it both ways, you can't claim you have my interests at heart, ask for my loyalty, use my vote and appropriate my culture, all the while slipping little knives into my back and disappearing when you have to participate for real and meaningful change.
Non-white conservatives, you can say any word you want, but there will be no more anger and drooling wrath because of words. When you act to oppress me, then you've got a real problem and words will not be used. And the next time you want to use that false American equivalency shit, think of this joke:  A white man tells a black man "Why don't your people just do like we did when we came here?" So, the black  man kills him, rapes his wife and daughter, enslaves his sons and steals all of his property.
In my heart, I know that this blog will not change the world, but it has made me feel better. I know you all, black and white will keep using the word nigger as a fake battleground for the fights you are all afraid to have. And you will do it because we are all scared of change, that without these petty differences, we might fall back into our most violent of tendencies and so it is better to have surrogate violence than real violence.
But I am not afraid of what we can do if we are free from lies and specious philosophy. So, I say to black and whites, paraphrasing Baldwin:
I am not your nigger.
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