Harry, Meghan and Diana

I have seen many people ask why Prince Harry's engagement is a big deal. I think I know and no it's not about race.

Prince Harry had panic attacks and other mental issues for years after the death of his mother Princess Diana. Who can forget the picture of him being forced to walk behind her casket in front of millions, fists clenched, face red, trying to hold it together at 12 years old? I can't. And little Harry knew none of his status could ever bring back the woman he loved.

Now, I know some of you are thinking "He's a wealthy royal prince. He got money. I don't feel sorry for him. Well, I remind you:
1. He was 12.
2. No one ever gets over the loss of their mom, and
3. Fuck you.

Harry battled his issues for a time, acted out socially as we all know and at one point, wanted to leave the Royal Family. But as time went by, he got older, better and found some sense of balance in his life.

And that is Meghan Markle.

Every man's choice of a life mate comes back to the woman who carried him, connected him to life, his past and the Creator. Even if he doesn't know who she is, "mother" is the essence of his choice. Harry has found in Ms. Markle the same quiet grace, charm and love of humanity that Diana had. It has helped him further overcome his demons and emboldened him toward his own family.

This is why it's such a big deal to women. This is bigger than little girl fantasies, bigger than race, class and even love.

This is a spiritual equanimity.